My Dad Is Depressed

My father was depressed and was drinking. 3

I moved last year, it was my father and my sister, but now they have moved to college and that is me. My mother left her 5 years ago and I know she still loves him. I hate to hug her alone and she is very sad whenever I come home. When I was a kid, I always slept with the bathroom light on. I haven't been there in over a year and he stays. Now that we're out, he goes out every weekend to drink and comes to me, then forgets to close the front door and leave the stove completely. I do not know what to do. He has a great job, handsome and one of the best men I've ever met, and I don't know why he doesn't have a girlfriend.

I love my dad so much and I can't see him so lonely and sad anymore.

Any suggestions on what I can do?

Maybe your dad did this to fill the void in your life and to feel lonely. Drinking reduces pain but does not cure the problem. Her father is in a critical condition at the moment and this may be the only way for her to get out of this situation. I mean, your mom left her, you and your sister were in a group and you left, and she hates being alone. In his mind, he turned off that little light because he wanted to remember how he felt when you lived with him.

Perhaps your father's greatest sorrow is that he does not want to leave his mother and that love will never last for him. He may even be afraid of losing you. I ... the whole thing looked so cute and all I can say is I apologize for it.

You really need to worry because you will need some serious help with drinking. You don't do it to do it, you do it because you can't stand the pain ... you don't know what to do. Talk to a pastor or family friend and see if they can help you. The more you do this to yourself, the more likely you are to get hurt. It hurts your body inwardly, but you can be so numb that you drink too much and poison yourself with alcohol or hurt yourself or maybe someone else. It's not just alcoholism, it's alcoholism ... an incurable disease with drugs. Rehabilitation and counseling at the center can never cure it. You cannot force yourself to separate. He had to get help if he wanted to solve his problems. I can say that if she needs help now, she will reject it outright. He can tell you that your alcohol use is under control and that everything is fine. He can tell you to take care of your work and that is his life. He can tell that he is not in pain and he is fine ... when you can see the pain on his face like a nose. It's not that I'm a consultant, but I have experience with alcohol and friends working with it. And the worst thing about this disease is that it poisons everything and everything.

She has to rebuild herself and make sure that life doesn't end just because she's alone with me. You need a tool to learn how to handle it better and I can't say it will be easy. Things are not going to change at all. Sometimes it takes a little love to get the message across. You have to do things you thought you couldn't do, like writing him a letter. Let him know in the letter that if he could not control his drinking, you would probably never come to see me. It is best to ask a rehabilitation consultant what to do. I don't have all the answers or suggestions you are looking for, but there may be a consultant.

I am very sorry that you are going through this and I am very sorry that your father is going through this. All I can say is: take small steps and do them one by one. You have to do the same ... It depends on whether he wants to or not. I see that it helps and I wish you all the best.

My Dad Is Depressed

Hello katie
I'm sorry to hear about the difficult situation with your father. Based on the language of your post, I assume you do not live in the United States. In the United States, we have a large support group for family and friends with drug problems. If you live in the United States, I suggest contacting AlAnon for help with your situation. I assume that a similar version is available in your country. Please try the link below to contact AlAnon online soon. good luck.
Katie, your father is depressed and has no one to share his life with because he is drinking. In other words, he drinks because he is sad and he is sad because he drinks.
His father lost his wife and now his children have moved. Now that you like him and he's drinking, I think it's just a matter of time because he's wasting his job and maybe his life on alcohol, so your life is going to be wrong. Don't expect it to get better when it gets worse. (How to find a girlfriend)
I totally agree that he misses the two girls a lot and maybe that's why he's moving down.
In the meantime, I think it's better for you, your mother and your sister to be out of their world.
None of you will feed her (this is her mother-in-law) and if any of you decide to pull your ego to save her, none of you can stop her.
As cold and difficult as it sounds, I'm afraid you'll have to sit back and watch it break. There is only one way.
The best you can do is get as many people as you can to take care of your dad and do what you can to convince them to have long-term protection from alcoholism. If you can get help from him, you will only win the first battle, not the battle.
After s trnt tends to repeat itself and may be with your dad, but the first thing you need to do is take the first hurdle and leave.
But the most important thing here is not to get lost looking for your father's help.
That's what I meant before, when I said maybe you should stand there and watch him drink his life. Your mother and father did not put you in this world as the guardian of your parents. Your primary job is to build, develop and succeed.
You will not be of any use to the people who are most important to you in this world if you have not learned to put yourself first and if you have not built a strong foundation.
It would be like trying to protect the pangers from the glasses you wore on your life jacket.
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Try asking a pastor, you will get advice from the point of view of a man, a liar and a sage. Only when he has a special problem will he be ready for the woman.

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